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It’s just boys being boys, but is it really? Monday September 26th the New York Rangers met the Philadelphia Flyers in a classic NHL rival matchup. Games between these two teams are always downright rough, but this first meeting of the pre-season seemed to have a bit more dirt than usual. I was aware only a short time into the game that Philly wasn’t here for a friendly rival pre-season game, when an early boarding call was made against them. Tom Sestito racked up 20 minutes in penalties for taking a boarding penalty for his dirty hit from behind on Andre Deveaux, after which a brawl ensued. While hockey is known to be a bloody sport the league has been cracking down on high hits, and hits where the man is helpless, or without the puck, due to the massive head injuries that have plagued the league, and ended the careers of many players in the last few years.
During the first scuffle of the game, Sean Avery of the Rangers, and a huge supporter of the LGBT community, had it out on the ice with Wayne Simmonds of the Flyers. Trading punches and barbs at one another. During this exchange, it is said by Avery that Simmonds called him a “fucking faggot.” Avery took some heat this past year for posting a pro same sex marriage video in his Ranger’s jersey, to support the same sex marriage law that was up in New York. While the interaction was caught on video and clearly Simmonds can be seen mouthing the words, but because there was no audio, the NHL has declined to take action against Simmonds for what they call “lack of proof”.
Someone who has since come out against this decision in the league is the Toronto Maple Leafs General Manager Brian Burke, father of the late Brendan Burke, a pioneer for acceptance of gays in hockey. Brian a gay man himself was a sounding board for all the things in hockey that were wrong, as far as policies and procedures that weren’t in place to protect players should they choose to come out. After Brendan’s death in a car accident his father Brian is carrying on his legacy. As a fan who has attended at least ten Ranger games in my life, I can attest to the fact that the use of the word faggot is thrown around quite a bit in the stands and the sport itself isn’t exactly a safe haven for gays, but it’s never been a threatening one either. People will mostly chalk this up to boys being boys, heat of the moment competition mentality, but other professional sport leagues have adopted rules and policies recently to protect LGBT players and fans from discrimination and hate speech. A perfect example of this is the fine of $100,000 against NBA player Kobe Bryant after his use of a gay slur on the basketball court during a game. Even the NFL has recently jumped on board and adopted new rules for the conduct of its players regarding inclusion and acceptance.
Are we seeing a softer side of professional sports? In some cases yes and unfortunately in the incident of Sean Avery, it seems the NHL just hasn’t caught up yet with what most of us already know, its 2011 and I’m quite sure there are a lot of gay hockey players. Just as you would protect a black hockey player from discrimination, a gay player deserves the same safety and respect afforded all other players, both on the ice and in the locker room. Sean Avery is known to be a bit of an instigator and has gotten under the skin of many a normally calm player, but does that warrant the use of such a derogatory term? Hell no! As a huge New York Rangers fan and hockey in general, I was very offended and upset over what happened both between Sean Avery and Wayne Simmonds, and the way many of the Philadelphia Flyers conducted themselves on the ice the other night. It was a disgrace to the game and its one that has to be addressed. If we ever want to move forward and be progressive in a sport that prides itself on loyalty, teamwork and discipline then we need to address the pink elephant in the room.
For more information on this incident CLICK HERE and you can read more about Brian Burke’s comments HERE.
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TIMES TWO BOOK COVERAGE & MARRIAGE EQUALITY IN NEW YORK
press photos for book by Katie Ambrose
Times Two is a memoir written by partners Kristen Henderson and Sarah Kate Ellis. Partners who are committed to each other in every sense of the word, other than through marriage. Fortunately, that can all change now thanks to Governor Cuomo’s introducing and then persistent support of the Marriage Equality Bill. The fight was long and hard, finally coming to pass in a nail biting NY State Senate session that had all of New York and the internet on the edge of their seats. Facebook and Twitter were in a frenzy with second by second updates. Somewhere out on Long Island, Kristen and Sarah had been watching, tweeting, and waiting too. They lived their lives no different than any heterosexual couple. They met, fell in love, built a life, and then built a family together. Both are life long New Yorkers, Kristen hailing from Long Island and Sarah from Staten Island. Both have lived in Manhattan for several years as well. So it makes perfect sense that they would only want to solidify their union into a marriage in their own state.
Now that the bill has passed, Kristen and Sarah (and all other gays, of course) are allowed to be legally married like every other citizen. Just take a moment to think about that. Imagine your basic civil rights being voted on by a room full of lawmakers. Your right to have your relationship legally recognized by the state, so that your partner can be your spouse and you can both be afforded the same rights that married heterosexual couples take part in. This room of lawmakers get to play judge and jury with your life. They get to deny you basic freedoms simply because they don’t approve of who you are. They think it’s wrong and immoral. And the majority of their reasons are based on religious views, something that is not supposed to factor into our legal system but somehow always does. But, that is a whole other blog in itself. For this, I will stick to the legal issues on gay marriage, many of which are recounted by Kristen and Sarah in Times Two.
Kristen and Sarah’s story is told through humorous and heart wrenching accounts of their unique experience. Having suffered through several trials and tribulations, they both ended up getting pregnant on the same day. That’s 9 months of physical, hormonal, and psychological changes to go through together. If that doesn’t justify writing a book together, I don’t know what does! So they did, and it is a warm, touching, and most importantly, a real story.
At the start of the book, Kristen and Sarah describe their somewhat different upbringings. Kristen’s artistic tendencies were prevalent as a kid. She and her sister Cathy had formed bands and played neighborhood gigs together. The music continued into college when Kristen joined the band Cathy started up, which was the very first incarnation of Antigone Rising. Sarah showed a strong business sense early on, though her first attempt at corporate success was not so honorable. She made a few fast bucks selling science test answers to her schoolmates. In college however, Sarah and a friend had a more legitimate enterprise going, cleaning houses and dog walking. I’m sure if you ask any of their long time friends and family, they’d agree it was no surprise that both would continue to build upon these traits and develop them them into ongoing careers. Kristen is still a successful musician and Sarah is an executive at Real Simple magazine.
The book continues with Kristen and Sarah telling their experiences of learning they were gay. This of course brings them to the world of dating women, and they share some background on their relationships prior to finding each other. Although Kristen and Sarah originally met through mutual friend Liz Brooks, it isn’t until years later that they connected on a much more soulful level. That moment is one of my favorites in the book. It is the stuff all great love stories are made of. The point where all the stars align, confusion leaves, everything makes sense, and you just know. Kristen and Sarah had been in the right place, at the right time, and they knew they were ready to be a couple and start a family. It is the first of several such moments to come throughout this story.
Not long into their relationship, Kristen and Sarah decide it’s time to start on their dream of having a family. They now take us along on their painstaking journey of research, donors, doctors, countless pregnancy tests, and late night runs to the local pharmacy. All of this is told with both hilarious honesty and heart warming sincerity. I can’t possibly describe the essence of the book or the range of emotions it takes you through. It is an absolute read for yourself experience. If you are a fan of Antigone Rising, you probably already have it in your possession. But even if you’re not familiar with Kristen or her band, Times Two still has appeal that reaches far and wide beyond the scope of fans or the gay community. This is a story that any woman can relate to no matter what type of relationship she is in, or even single and trying to conceive. Some may read it and find similarities in their own lives. And some may read it and find hope where they thought there was none. It’s a story about love, life, and family.
In light of the recent marriage equality bill being discussed as I type this blog, Kristen and Sarah’s story is more important than ever. Kristen had taken to her blog several times on issues that her family were facing. Issues such as having a social worker come into their home to deem them proper parents. Having to adopt each other’s child in order to be considered their parent. Issues that heterosexuals do not have to endure no matter what circumstances their child may be raised in.
More recently, Sarah wrote a blog that made it to the front page of Huffington Post and has been shared on various sites across Facebook and Twitter. Kristen and Sarah want to be legally married to protect their children from the unjust criticism that is bound to happen as they grow up. They want their children to be just like others, born into a family that loves them with parents who are legally wed. And now, they will. A few days after the bill passed, Kristen wrote a touching blog for Huffpost Women. She brings us back to her own childhood where she was never comfortable thinking about the all important “white dress” that all little girls are supposed to dream of. Now having gained the right to do so, it seems Kristen may not have a problem wearing one after all. It just comes down to this…No one wants to defile the sanctity of marriage. The only “gay agenda” is equality. To be legally accepted, legally recognized, and legally afforded the same rights as every other citizen. We work and pay taxes. We vote. We honor our military and respect our country. Love, life, and family. We believe in that too. And we are grateful that the NY State Senate has finally recognized that.
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